Raising a teenager isn’t easy. It can feel like everything is a battle as they try to push boundaries. And while it’s important to set boundaries and stay firm, it’s also crucial to know which battles to let go.
Here, we’ll look at some of the battles you should absolutely let go, and which ones are worth fighting for.
Which Battles Should You Let Go?
Although it may feel like no battle should be ignored, sometimes it’s imperative for your sanity! The question is, which battles can be ignored? Here’s a few examples:
- Crazy hairstyles
- A messy room
- Clothing choices
- They would rather hang out with their friends
- Homework
These are just some of the common battles that you can let go. Of course, there are limitations here. For example, crazy hairstyles aren’t a problem unless they go against the school’s dress code. You’ll also want to step in with their homework if they are falling seriously behind in school.
Basically, if the thing you don’t agree with isn’t causing any serious issues, you can let it go. Remember, things like trying crazy hairstyles and making unique clothing choices are all part of discovering their identity.
Your teen will learn for themselves why it is a good idea to clean their room and get their homework done. As a parent, you can’t always be there to hold their hand. They need to learn things by themselves and leaving them to it is one of the quickest ways they will learn.
The Battles That Are Worth Fighting For
So, now you know some of the battles you can let go, what about the battles that are worth fighting for? The top things you shouldn’t let go include:
- Disrespect to others
- Grades
- Curfew
While teenagers are going to push the boundaries and show some level of disrespect, it’s important to correct the behavior. Without it being made clear that the behavior is unacceptable, it will only worsen. So, if they show any sign of disrespect to you or others, it’s time to be firm and let them know it won’t be tolerated.
Battles about their grades are also acceptable. If their grades have been falling or they aren’t as good as they should be, you need to get on top of it. Obviously, their grades can affect their entire lives. So, if they’re slipping it is important to address the issue and ensure your teen starts taking them more seriously.
Finally, curfew is another thing that should be non-negotiable. As long as you set a reasonable curfew, they should be made to stick to it. If for any reason they are going to be late, make sure they let you know at least 30 minutes in advance.
Teenagers need boundaries and discipline to let them know what is and isn’t acceptable. They are learning so much about who they are and the world around them, so it’s important to be a positive influence. However, everything doesn’t have to be a battle. The above are just some of the things you should and shouldn’t let go.
